‘However, as it is written: “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived” — the things God has prepared for those who love him— ‘ 1 Corinthians 2:9
Waiting for things to happen can be very monotonous. Dull. Tedious. Boring. Blah. And the list goes on and on. Waiting for that new job or even waiting for that Amazon package to come in can be tiring. But waiting may just be one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. This was the lesson I had to learn over the past summer after I graduated. If you talk to some people graduating college is probably one of their greatest accomplishments in their lifetime. So you can say I was pretty pumped once I got my degree. But the aftermath was almost unbearable. Most people expect to land their dream job right after graduation and move to a brand new big city to experience the ultimate adult life. Sorry kids but this is far from the case. Yes, some people might luck up and get that awesome job, but most, like myself, will end up back at home with their parents waking up every morning job searching on Indeed. At first, it was fine (especially because I didn’t have to pay rent and I got free food), but after about 6 weeks, I started to go crazy. I was up to the neck in denial letters and a degree that I felt like it meant nothing to HR departments. I was slowly drifting into depression, which is crazy because it takes a lot to bring me down.
So because I did not to feel like my usual self I started to make some changes. I made myself find stuff to do on a daily basis. I got up early and sometimes I even went to hang out with my grandparents just to get out of the house. But after a while I found myself doing stuff that I hate just to stay busy and one of those things was reading. If you know me personally, you know I hate to read with a passion, but I did it. I started with a book that I bought about 2 years ago from Target that has been sitting on my bedside table catching dust. Its called “The Wait” by Devon Franklin and Megan Good. Now I know what you are thinking, how did I find help for depression in a book about celibacy? Well, I’ll tell you. The main idea of the book is how Devon and Megan made their marriage stronger by waiting to have sex until after the wedding, but they go way deeper that. They applied “the wait” to every aspect of their lives, from their careers to everything in between. In one chapter of the book, they cover the phrase “Delayed Gratification”. Now I have heard of this before but I have never applied it to anything but food. LOL So I was very intrigued. Basically the longer you wait, the better the outcome will be. The bigger the blessing. The main problem that people have with waiting, is wanting something right that second. Our goals (prime example weight loss), money, careers, and even relationships.
We are always so busy with making plans and goals for ourselves that we forget the biggest key to it all…GOD. In the book, they are very good at making it very clear that without God and making sure that your plans line up with His, that waiting for stuff to happen can turn into rushed results that aren’t in the plan for your life. Every big decision in your life might not turn out like you wanted it to, but they really won’t if you don’t ask God about it or ask for guidance. God sets a pace for our lives and sometimes we get ahead of Him and move faster than we should. It usually ends with an “I told you so” moment. Yeah, you can take that job that pays well right now, but how will it affect you mentally later. And yes the job you are currently at is just “ok”, but you are eager to leave next week. These are the type of decisions that I was faced with this summer. But I knew it wasn’t what God had for me.
I had to teach myself how to be patient and wait on God. I started by writing out all of my goals; both short term and long term. I prayed on each of them no matter how small or how huge and by December I had crossed off everything on my short-term list. Now I didn’t write crazy unreachable things, they were more on the drink more water and reading more side. I did them all and I was so proud of myself. Not only because I achieved some of my goals but because through it all I became closer to God. I prayed a lot more and relied more on Him. I stopped stressing about the small things and found comfort in that the plan God has for my life is slowly but surely playing out. Now don’t get me wrong, some stuff God has in his plan might not be exactly what I expected, but because I rely on Him I know I can succeed in all of it. You have to be okay with waiting. That’s what Delayed Gratification is. Waiting and knowing that because you are patient, the result will be even better than you could have ever imagined.
Now if you found an ounce of inspiration from this, please know that when waiting, all you have to do is wait. None of “I am going to do this in the meantime”, just wait and pray. Listen to God, because if you are focusing on Him, He will reveal what you need to do and what you need to work on. That one goal may not happen just yet because you are not ready and God wants to get you ready for it. So listen and focus on Him. So for a little update, I currently have a part-time job in my field. I am still at home but I am really trying to save money so when it is time for me to move, I will be able to get everything I need. I wake up every day with a positive outlook on the daily job search even though it can be very discouraging. And I make sure to better myself and my craft so I will be ready for that dream job. So I am still waiting and loving every second of it. I’ll be sure to update you guys 😉.
Stay focus and know that if you wait on God, what you envisioned for your life will be even greater than what you could have even dreamt of.
Until next time…